What are the different stages of a relationship, and how long do they typically last?
Attraction is first. Typically last a few weeks to a few months. This is where the woman can’t stop fiddling with things like her bracelet or hair when around the man and the man can’t stop saying stupid things he regrets later.
Next comes being in love. This is where everything just feels fantastic. Sex is better, conversation is better, and you feel the person just gets you like no one else does. This is because your brain is pumping chemicals into your blood stream that are more powerful than any drug out there. This stage can last forever but normally is over within a few years to ten years max.
Finally you have love. Depending on the person this is more than enough to stay together. Yes you don’t have that same amazing feeling of being in love but you still love them deeper than you do anyone else including your parents. For others though it’s not enough and they will begin cheating, attempting to open relationships, or just leave their partner. They crave that drug known as being in love and will do what ever it takes to get it back.
The problem is it’s a fleeting high like all drugs and soon they find themselves cycling through relationships every few months.
As much as people don’t want to admit it, most marriages are held together by outside forced like children, careers, and just plain not wanting to be alone. It’s pretty scary to be 55 years old and facing a separation. You built a life together and the thought of starting over with half your stuff scares the crap out of you. But on the other hand that snoring is driving you insane and you wish they just stop picking their damn teeth at the dinner table!
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At forty and with three kids I have asked myself if my marriage is being held together by outside forces or our live for each other. I hope it’s love because I don’t want to be getting divorced at 55 when my youngest goes off to college. If I do then I’m moving to some cheap tropical nation being that old white guy people call a pervert for being with a woman half my age. It ain’t love and I know it but it will be fun.